Dear CoCo
The VOID's own no-nonsense woman of wisdom will help you through your angst.

The VOID’s no-nonsense woman of wisdom will help you through your angst. Write her about your problems via the website at coco@voidingthevoid.com. She’s waiting to hear about your pathetic troubles.

Dear Coco:
My daughter-in-law "Angela" is picking on me by implying that I am fat. When I go to visit her and my son she continuously talks about the latest aerobics class that she taking or what new skiing, rock-climbing, or marathon exploit she has become involved in. I know that talks about these things to make me feel that because I do not do the same things I am a big fat pig! She has done other things to insult me and make me uncomfortable in their house. One time when I was visiting overnight I woke up in the middle of the night and went to get a drink of water. What did I see when I got to the kitchen but a padlock on the refrigerator door. I know that Angela put it there hoping that I would see it and get the message that she thought I couldn't control my eating. What should I do to get her to leave me alone?
'Can't stomach it anymore' Julie

Dear Julie:
You must be stomaching it because you are fat. You either have two choices stay in your own home and eat yourself to fatness or go on a diet with your daughter-in-law, then you'll have something in common with her. Other then that stop visitng them!!!!

Dear Coco:
I am worried about an outbreak of violence on Superbowl Sunday. My boyfriend always invites his friends over to our apartment to watch football games. His friends are big, crude guys who drink a lot. As they drink during the course of the game they become more and more intoxicated and agitated. If, as is usually the case, the team that they bet on is losing, they take out on whatever is nearby. One time a guy smashed his head through the television screen because he was unhappy with the score the TV showed him. Another time a guest was thrown out a window because he allegedly spilt beer on the couch. Previous guests were beaten with baseball bats and hockey sticks for taking more then their fair number of pizza slices. What can I do to keep things under control?
'Tired of unnecessary roughness' Ann

Dear Ann:
As they say "men will be men" in your case 'men will be animals." Men always get excited at football games. Some of them scream, some hit and some as you say bang there heads into TV sets. So you must do two things first find something else to do that day and let men be men or just leave your husband and find someone eles that doesn't like football. If neither of theses suggestions appeal to you then just join in on them. So the next time they go crazy, you go crazy girlfriend try banging some dishes over there heads and if they say anything just tell them you got excited too!! Hey you have the right to enjoy the game too :-)

Dear CoCo:
I was recently fired from my job as night janitor at the high school. Except for the hours, 9pm to 5am, the job was pretty good. I could get the things they wanted me to do, sweeping the floors, taking out the trash, etc., done in two hours. I spent the remainder of the night lifting weights in the football team's weight room. One day I ran into the principal of the school. He saw how big I had gotten, guessed what I had been doing and fired me. I don't think it was fair because nobody complained that school wasn't clean. Can you help me get my job back?
'Thrown out of school' Ric

Dear Ric:
First of all go join your own gym. Our hard-earned money is not paying you to have a body made of rock. No excuses. Find another job and join a gym!!!!!!

Dear CoCo:
I don't want to sound arrogant but I also just want to say what I'm trying to say so hear it is - straight. I am a very creative, motivated person. I really feel I am capable of achieving practically anything I set my mind to. Whenever, in the past, I have set my sights on something, I almost always get it because I am a hard worker. I am memorable and willing to think outside the box and be innovative. The problem is that I can't figure out what I want anymore and so I don't have anything to set my sights on. This has been a problem for nearly a year and seems to be getting worse. Every day comes and goes and though I work at the few things happening on around me, I am lacking a real goal to strive for. When I try to figure out a good goal, I come up empty. I think: what a shame to waste what I have just by being mobile and useless. But I just can't seem to find anything interesting or important enough to jog my interest or value. A family member said once that you just have to chose something and do it, and once you get rolling change from there. But life is too short to do that, I'm afraid. Do you have any suggestions?
"Feeling Like A Failure" in the VOID

Dear Failure:
This is a very difficult letter I have to answer because I myself do not know what I want from life either. The only advise and honest answer I may give you is to never feel that you have not meet up to your standards. Everyone is special in there own way. Sometimes people never find what their purpose in life is. We are put on this earth, we live the best life that we can or that is offered to us and then we die. Unfortunally everyone's stay on this earth is short. We must always make the best out of a shitty siduation. Sometimes you just need some time off from life, like a vacation or a metation retreat to try and refind yourself. I suggest you take some personal time and figure out where you see yourself in 10 years or so. Focus on the most important things in your life and start building from that. Never become a vegtable where you find yourself to be numb. Keep active in your daily routines and always think positive. Try to find new things to expereince, things that you really would not consider doing. I think that you are focusing too hard on what you want and now you really can't think straight which make you scared and uncertain of what the future may hold for you, but please do not be scared. Life has a funny way of working to our advantage, sometimes! Try taking on projects or maybe try a new career, always have a open mind learning new things. I probably did not succeed in giving the advice that you were looking for but rememeber one thing, you are here in this world because you were meant to be, God put you here for some purpose just like the rest of us. Good luck my friend !

Dear CoCo:
My husband is oversexed. He is driving me crazy. We are not teenyboppers, we are senior citizens. When is enough enough? I am tired of making excuses and he is tired of hearing them.
I can’t even put on my nightie without him attacking me. I’m exhausted. HEEEEELLLLLPPP!!
“Too Much Too Often”

Dear oversexed:
I don't understand it at your age assuming you are over 60, why would you complain about that. Listen there are women in there 30s that are prabably getting less then you, this is why there are a lot of divorces, not enough sex in the marriage. One night while out to dinner with a wise senior ciitizen, we will call her "Shirl," she once told me to make a man happy is to open your legs and close your eyes, it will be over before you know it. She said this while intoxicated but she's right. If you and your husband are together this long and are still having sex say "THANK YOU GOD!!!" Most men don't find there wives attractive when they are old, wrinkled and have breasts down to there knees. My advice would be close your eyes, open your legs and just be thankful that you have a man that still desires you after all these years. Or you could just get him a tinybopper for his next birthday. Good luck :-)

Dear Coco:
I am a young gay man living in Hollywood, CA. Angelenos are very body conscious. And it's no different in the gay community. I know that beauty really comes from the inside. But lets face it, a well-toned body not only helps you gets you some cat calls and whistles, but it's good for you health and confidence. So, Coco, how do I get motivated into exercising? I don't like gyms and I have found it difficult to get myself into jogging or working out at home. What should I do?
“Body Conscious” in LA

Dear young man:
Reading your letter makes me think of myself, I am young, well mid-aged and I am very self-conscious of my body also, so I know exactly how you are feel. I will tell you one thing that is important and that is, if you love yourself people will love you back. What comes from the inside will reflect on the outside. Now as far as motivating yourself you should really find a friend who will workout with you. If you can't find anyone that will workout with you. You must set a goal and make sure you fillful it. Think to yourself "hey, do I wanna be unhealthy and fat!!! " Well then get off your ASS and start walking on those nice mild days in LA. Get up early and just walk, walking is the best thing and before you know it you'll drop those unwanted pounds and then you'll have more energy. More energy to fool around when you get those cat calls and whistles!!!! You don't have to have a six pack to be attracive as long as you feel good you will look good. One last thing if a guy does not like you for "YOU" then screw him!!!! Good luck my young gay man !